Reno Omokri, a Nigerian author and social commentator, has sparked debate with his views on age gaps in marriage. According to Omokri, men should think twice before marrying women their age or slightly younger, as such unions could lead to long-term dissatisfaction, health risks, and marital failure.
Asserting, “Men should be 10 years older,” Omokri argues that biological and emotional compatibility play a crucial role in marital longevity. He cites the biblical story of creation, where God created Adam first and Eve later, suggesting that Adam was already well-settled and established before Eve was created. They weren’t age mates or even in the same age bracket.
Omokri also claims that men remain sexually active well into their nineties, while women typically reach menopause in their forties. This disparity, he says, poses challenges for couples, leaving men with the options of celibacy, extramarital affairs, or risking prostate cancer due to prolonged abstinence.
Claiming, “Men who marry significantly younger women tend to live longer than those who marry age mates or older women,” Omokri warns that marrying an older woman is akin to “playing Russian Roulette.” While he didn’t directly criticize the British royal family, he mentioned Queen Camilla, who is older than King Charles III, as an example of age-disparate relationships that defy traditional norms.
Omokri’s views have received mixed reactions, with some critics labeling his remarks as outdated and misogynistic. Others have praised him for speaking hard truths rarely addressed in public discourse. Relationship experts argue that emotional intelligence, mutual respect, and shared goals are far more crucial to marital success than age gaps.
Research suggests that age gaps in relationships can present unique challenges, but they don’t necessarily determine success or failure. What’s more important is how couples communicate about these challenges. Some studies indicate that larger age gaps may lead to differences in interests, goals, and values, potentially lowering relationship satisfaction.
However, other research highlights benefits such as longer life expectancy, personal growth, and enhanced social circles. Ultimately, the success of a relationship depends on individual compatibility, shared values, and effective communication.